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ᴘᴀɪɴ ᴛʀᴀᴠᴇʟs ᴛʜʀᴏᴜɢʜ ғᴀᴍɪʟʏ ʟɪɴᴇs ᴜɴᴛɪʟ sᴏᴍᴇᴏɴᴇ sᴀʏs ᴇɴᴏᴜɢʜ . ᴜɴᴛɪʟ sᴏᴍᴇᴏɴᴇ ɪs ʀᴇᴀᴅʏ ᴛᴏ ʜᴇᴀʟ ɪᴛ ᴛʜᴇᴍsᴇʟᴠᴇs. My ʙʟᴏᴏᴅ ʟɪɴᴇ ɪs sᴏʟɪᴅ, ʙᴜᴛ ғᴜʟʟ ᴏғ ʙʀᴏᴋᴇɴ ᴘɪᴇᴄᴇs . Raised by a ʟɪɴᴇ ᴏғ #sᴛʀᴏɴɢ#ɪɴᴅᴇᴘᴇɴᴅᴇɴᴛ#qᴜᴇᴇɴs is what ʀᴜɴs ᴛʜʀᴏᴜɢʜ my ʙʟᴏᴏᴅ . My ɢʀᴇᴀᴛ ɢʀᴀɴᴅᴍᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ʀᴇᴘʀᴇsᴇɴᴛᴇᴅ #ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴᴇᴍᴘᴏᴡᴇʀᴍᴇɴᴛ . ᴀ sᴍᴀʟʟ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴ, ᴡʜᴏ ᴇᴍʙᴏᴅɪᴇᴅ everything that a #ᴡᴀʀʀɪᴏʀ stood for . sʜᴇ ᴡᴀs ғɪᴇʀᴄᴇ.
Sadly, not all the woman in our family had her strength. All fierce but some just weren't as brave as my Abuela. Many settled for abuse mentally/ physically because there idea of respect was not the true definition of it. Raised with strong family values and the Catholic church, Faith was always a huge part of my life. When someone was hurting or sick, we prayed. When we were hoping for good outcomes, we prayed. When a family member passed, we did rosaries and novenas. My Faith is what guided me throughout life fearlessly, so I am forever grateful for my upbringing . With that being said,there were many things, I did not agree with. Growing up seeing some of the women in my family tolerate unimaginable things was hard to understand and process so young.
While, they taught me about the importance of Faith they also taught me about what I didn't want in my life. You see, I didn’t only experience watching domestic violence in my own, I lived it. I was a victim too, and it took me a long time to be able to admit that. It was only until my early 30’s did I really decide to create who I wanted to be simply by knowing what I didn’t want to be like. I don’t claim to have the answers or be an expert of anything, but I do know pain. And that I would spend my life trying to avoid causing it to others or feeling it and letting it rule me. So I became Brave on my own based of the experiences I had been through. I myself was a warrior like my Abuela was too… and not because I didn’t fall several times… but because I arose every single time I fell.
Was it easy? No and it’s still not. I struggle every day and still get called out for being “too outspoken or too much.” Because I believe in standing up for what’s right and having a voice for not only myself but for others silenced. I believe in creating a generation that doesn’t run from its problems but faces it and lets it go to God. I truly believe in being free to be who you are regardless of anyone’s opinions. I believe GOD designs you with a purpose and he knows we don’t have a handbook to life and at times we are going to be messy but it is all part of who you are supposed to be. And you may not be for everyone but the beauty of the way I think, is that it does not matter. When your fuel in life is run off lessons learned through failed experiences and the faith that got you through it… the only opinion that should matter is that of God.
𝐒𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐭’𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐳𝐞 Doing what’s best for you, regardless of your past.
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